What should parents be like?
Being a parent is a great happiness. But it's not only joy, it's hard work on yourself. The characters of our children, their good and bad qualities, their ability to be in society - all this and much more depends on education. It is you who must be able to make the right decisions, only after that your child learn to follow the call of the mind. Let's see what parents should be like.
The very first thing you should have ismoral stability. Children should see what moral standards you have. Be fair, honest, honest, fulfill all your promises. If your character does not involve these virtues, then it will be too difficult to instill in their child. You can not teach a child to be noble, if they are not themselves. Parents are the best teachers, they set an example much faster than teachers. If children see that their father and mother have many virtues, they act extremely honestly, they are just and brave, then they will follow this example.
Do not forget about chastity. Do not allow yourself to commit immoral shameful acts. Stay away from the debauchery of our world, avoid situations that result in an improper attitude. For example, if you are a married man, then do not bring a girlfriend or an employee to dinner, do not sit with her in the car to go somewhere alone, etc. The same applies to the ladies.
Sense of justice
Never bypass justice. Do not punish the child more than he deserved, do not deprive him of his well-deserved reward, do not distinguish him from the background of other children, do not expect more than he can do.
Yes, you must act honestly with every child,but there are situations where inequality is more just than equality. For example, one of the children committed a bad act, for which he should be punished, and other children on the contrary require encouragement. It's very difficult for parents, because you love all your kids the same way. The decision is yours, but be aware that parents should see the shortcomings of their children, rather than close their eyes to them, only so they can be fought with.
Good parents realize that they are imperfect. They understand that they have their own shortcomings, weaknesses and limits of possibilities. But they know how to put up with this and become kinder to their children. Learn to be lenient to the mistakes that others make, restrain your gusts of anger and have patience.
For example, this situation: the kid, eating bread, dropped it on the floor. He fell just down the jam. How does the mother act? She begins to swear, shout, prove that she has already asked the child 100 times to be neat. In the results, she washes the floor discontentedly, and before that she can slap the unfortunate child.
A good humble mother will act differently. She will understand that not only the child is to blame for this situation. In part, she was not right when she did not see to it that he kept the bread above the plate. She remembers that most recently she broke the cup herself or accidentally spoiled her expensive sweater from the wool by putting it in the washing machine. Any child will say that, my parents are the best, if you treat him with understanding, knowing that you are also not perfect.
You are very fond of your child, but never betoo malleable and spineless. Follow your decisions and convictions adamantly, do not allow to exert pressure on you, do not yield to persuasion, which will change your right decisions. Be strict, but not cruel. Parents are the best friends for their children, they want only the best for them, but the guys often can not realize it yet. Be firm and persevere for the good for them.
Many fathers and mothers simply refuse to exerciseseverity. Children begin to do everything that comes to their minds. This is the same thing, that to release sheep for free bread. From the outside, it seems that parents on the contrary do not like the child and constantly forget about him.
Good parents, what they are:
- Sure. Like any leader who does a good job with all his duties, the parent must be confident in his own abilities and actions, otherwise he will not be able to lead the child. When the kid feels that you are emanating strength, he will give in to you. If you are not confident in yourself, then the children will not obey you unquestioningly.
- Calm. What should parents do? Be calm. Sometimes it can be very difficult. If you are in a depressed or worried state, it will be difficult for you to fulfill your parental responsibilities. It's unlikely that you will be able to focus on children and give them all the best that can be.
- Optimistic. Do not be pessimistic. Let life - it's a complicated thing, but do not see everything in dark colors. Concerns and worries have always existed, and they will continue to exist, and you will remain optimistic even in hard times, so that your children do not look at life with a gloomy look.
- Wise. On the right path the child should be sent almost from birth. In such a difficult task, a considerable amount of wisdom is needed. Try to be sensible, insightful, give the child only correct, proven advice. Always think only sensibly, and you will become wise.
Listen to your parental instincts. You yourself know how to become good parents. This knowledge has appeared in you with the first cry of your little miracle. Do not be afraid and you will succeed!