6 important points to learn about before marriage
Is there unconditional love between partners? No and no again
A spouse is not your child. He has long grown, became a mature and formed personality. It is with him to live, build a family and raise children. However, on his part, it is impossible to guarantee the everyday manifestation of love for you throughout the years.
In life there are so many moments when the husband will notlike, but in the soul of a constantly living feeling of love for him. Can not come the best times with a sense of understanding, and it seems that the marriage is falling apart. Love is not a ready and constant result. Over the years, marriage will need to work on your relationships and find ways to keep your partner's love for you. When this understanding comes, you will evaluate each of your actions differently. And you will find a way for your family to be happy also in those moments when it seems to you that love is gone.
The most difficult time after the appearance of the baby - the first two years
Almost all spouses dream of becoming parents. However, the birth of a child will completely reverse the habitual course of life. Emerging conflicts will no longer be resolved in the usual ways, you will not pour, the hormonal level will go off scale, thoughts and actions will change. And at this time it is very important not to allow these complex relationships to take root in the future. Do not accumulate grievances and annoyance, it is worth talking to each other and often remembering that you once fell in love and made your own choice.
Sexual life will often be in second place
Even a great love for sex with the course of marriageis blunted. But do not let the sex life slope. You can consult a psychologist, include fantasy and find a way to return your desire. Sometimes it can manifest itself at partners at different times, it is not worth to blame each other. Often, a decrease in the desire for intimacy with the spouse (s) occurs unconsciously. Pressure and accusations will lead to a more severe cooling of relations. Try to look for other points of contact, cultivate warm relations that will help your partner to melt.
Daily fill the marriage with pleasant moments
Relationships are improved and pleasant little things,for example, with a kind word, which is always pleasant to hear. You can bring your spouse (s) his favorite delicacy and enjoy it together. Do not be shy to show tenderness and joy (words, emotions) when the husband is at home. Believe me, it will be very pleasant for any husband or wife. If you think about something terribly romantic and sweet, realize what you have planned. After all, a happy marriage is a mosaic of such moments.
Do not forget to work on relationships
The truth of family life is this: no efforts of one spouse to restore a relationship and save a marriage without the participation of the second spouse will not be able to save the family. Unions, where one tries, and the second does not care, will inevitably fall apart. Perhaps a person was not taught that mutual responsibility is important in marriage. There is also another situation, when one has to wait and tolerate the spouse slowly trailing behind. This partner needs time. Do not blame him for what's hard for you, but he shows complete indifference. Accusations will not help. Sometimes the contribution of one more significant, and sometimes - of another. The main thing is that your results are almost equal.
Forget about the disputes, whose contribution is greater
Both spouses do a lot of work, invisiblefor each of the parties. In disputes over this issue, there are no prizes and winners, and there are only losers. Duties are divided equally, but they are different. For example, the husband earns, but does not do much household chores, and the wife does not work, but is responsible for the children and the house. In this case, any wife will appreciate her husband's help in caring for children, and her husband will be pleased with the support of his wife and the understanding that he is tired. The main thing is not to forget to thank each other for any work done.